ANOTHER ONE BITES THE DUST ANOTHER ONE BITES THE DUST ANOTHER ONE BITES THE DUST

Did you guys hear about the marriage of one of our closest gay friends?! More than surprising or shocking it’s sad. Sad that someone like him should go and do this… someone who shares with me the same adoptive ‘mama’, Rakshaben; someone who was very close to Bombay Dost-Humsafar parivar; someone who years ago co-founded a group for young gay men along with me, his own boyfriend, ‘U’ (who incidentally has been dreamy-eyed about gay marriage and adoption for as long as I can remember) and mine, as well as two other friends; someone who has been closely involved with the virtual gay community; someone who even came out to his dad as a teenager!

I do not know the details, why M did this, but he very well knew what we at BD-HST say often: no one’s holding a gun to your temple and forcing you to get married. Yes, I know he belongs to a North Indian clan that’s just as famous for its conservative attitude as its kanjoosi. And I refuse to believe that he would have done it just so that he is not disinherited of his family fortunes. More than 10 years of being a self-identified gay man, 10 years of telling your father that you do not feel attracted to women but to men, 10 years of interaction with gay men who are highly politicized, a lifetime of loving men…and at the end, this! I just do not understand why he got married…why? why?!